In my time writing this blog, I have often been vulnerable and raw in some of the ways I have had to work on myself as a wife or the things God is teaching me about marriage. If you have been reading along, you have witnessed my prayers, experiences, and the work God is doing in it all. I have been spending a lot of time asking God to grow me and show me who He wants me to be as a woman in her newlywed season, trying to serve Him and my husband well. I have gone to my Heavenly Father as a needy, and at times desperate, daughter seeking his guidance. I have prayed a lot of prayers, and God has been faithful and good in answering all of them.
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act”. Psalm 37:4-5.
When I sit back and think about the ways God has blessed me through my marriage and by my husband, I am so thankful to Him. More than I spend time letting either of them know. As I have taken time to reflect on all that I am thankful for, I was reminded of David and the Psalms. I want to be someone who prays like that. I want to have a grateful heart.
I love the heart of David, seeking and calling on the Lord so honestly. I am sure David had to be intentional in his prayers that are filled with so much gratitude and appreciation for who God is, but his heart was pure in that thankfulness. David understood who God is, recognized the blessings He gives, and knew He is worthy of all praise. David often mentioned giving thanks to the Lord. He knew it was a necessary part of his prayers and relationship with Him.
“I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds. I will be glad and exult in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High”. Psalm 9:1-2.
Don’t we all wish we could pray like David? Don’t we wish we would give thanks to the Lord with our whole hearts? It might take a little practice and effort, but I believe that we can. We can learn a lot from David’s prayers and align them with our own. David went to the Lord in need and desperation, yes, but he never forgot to be thankful or praise Him. Are we going to God, only in our need? Or are we going to God with our gratitude, too?
Prayers of gratitude are an act of obedience. We are obeying the Word of God when we pray with thanksgiving. His Word calls us to it, so we need to take note of that and act. I am personally guilty of forgetting this often. I would like to tell you that my prayers emulate David’s, but that is just not true. I have devoted myself to my husband. God’s word reminds me to first devote myself to prayer. Studying how David prayed to the Lord has helped me tremendously in this. I know this takes intentionality and practice, and a lot of time, asking God to lead the way for thankfulness to grow in my heart.
“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” Colossians 4:2.
Intentional time in prayer, just for praise, is a key ingredient in the recipe for a grateful heart. Much like David expresses in his own prayers, we can show our adoration for the Lord through our praise. When I think about how this all applies to me as a wife, I am reminded that one of the greatest blessings I have been given from God is my marriage and my husband. Why wouldn’t I pray each and every day, thankful for that?
By praying over the things we appreciate and thanking God for in who He made our husbands to be, our appreciation for our husband multiplies. What we spend our time focused on is what fills us. When we spend more time with God, the Holy Spirit fills us. When we spend more time considering His blessings, gratitude fills us. But we can’t stop with just telling God how thankful we are and filling our own hearts. We need to be vocal in letting our husbands know we are thankful for them as well. By telling our husband exactly what we are grateful for, the way he feels our love will strengthen. Gratitude is an act of love, one that enriches the lives of our husbands when we speak it over them.
“Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life”. Proverbs 31:11.
I want to pray in a way that lets God know I understand who He is, I understand the blessings He gives me, and I understand He is worthy of all praise. I want my husband to feel worthy of praise as well. I want my husband to know I understand who he is as a man and who God has called him to be and that I am thankful for that. I want him to know every single day how much I thank God for the man He created my husband to be. I want my husband to feel confident and secure in knowing that I appreciate who he is and how he loves me. After all, God created him just for me.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. James 1:7.
If we know that every good and perfect gift, like that of marriage, comes from above, then we know that our very own husband comes from above. God gave us this gift of marriage. Being thankful is something God’s Word calls us to. (1 Timothy 4:4). As wives, being thankful for our husbands is not negotiable.
I know full well that God created my husband to be a wonderful man. I see in him what God sees, or at least I do my best to. I see a man who loves me the way Jesus does. I see a man who, although at times flawed like the rest of us, is made perfect in God’s love. I see the man God created just for me and I am full in my heart with gratitude. God created my husband fearfully and wonderfully. The man he has become and continues to grow into is the man God created just for me. For that, I will praise the lord every single day.
I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14.
God created your husband this way, too. This is something we should celebrate. We can thank God for the men He built them into, worthy of the title “husband”. If my husband was created in the image of God, I need to see him that way. I can be thankful for the man he is and the man he continues to become because of Gods faithful work in him. God is working in your husband, too. God has molded him and will keep molding him. God loves your husband. He wants you to be thankful for him and to thank God for him. I know you love that man of yours, think about all the reasons why. Those reasons, they are all worthy of thanksgiving!
Maybe you are like me, I find my prayers to be focused on my need and desire more than my gratitude. Even when it comes to my husband, I ask God to “help him grow” in areas I feel need work. Sound familiar?
When I focus on what I want, rather than what I have, I am less likely to have a grateful heart. That can be easily reflected into my marriage. Instead, I have a heart that is left wanting. Not that having needs or desires is wrong, and God wants us to come to Him in those needs and desires. But He wants us to come to Him with thanksgiving, too. He wants us to recognize our blessings, including blessings that come from being married to our husband.
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Thessalonians 5:16-18.
Let’s challenge ourselves as wives to speak praises over our husbands and to God. Let’s form that habit so that our hearts go from desire to gratitude, lacking nothing. I have seen this habit change my perspective and attitude toward my own husband in our marriage. I have seen him receive my gratitude and be filled by it. Ladies, we want to be women and wives who fill our husbands. We want to serve God as wives and through our marriage. Being thankful is something that God calls us to. As wives, being thankful for our husbands is not negotiable. I praise God for the man He created my husband to be. I am thankful that He created me to be his wife and helper. My prayer is that you will feel led to praise God for your own husband, too.