She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
Imagine not having to fear because you know your family is provided for. Like preparing for the winter and knowing you have plenty of warm clothes in your closets. Not only are you prepared, but you are prepared well with only the best. That is the type of provision I want for my own marriage. The kind that says I have more than enough. The kind that says, no need to worry, it’s already handled. The kind that allows me to wear my faith boldly, like a purple gown.
A wife of noble character is prepared. Her household is prepared. She wears her confidence in that for all to see. She faces dark, cold, and hard days ahead with no fear because she sees clearly that God will provide in it all. She has faith. Hardship comes, our marriages will face trials, but fear of that is not something that this wife has because she trusts that she will have more than enough to get through.
How do we go from worry about the hardship of winter seasons in our lives, and marriages, to feeling abundantly prepared to face anything with more than enough? With God, that’s how. I know, I know. I have said that one before. But it’s true! There is not a whole lot we can do on our own with out Him, at least not if we want to do it right. This wife that Proverbs 31 describes to us isn’t afraid of facing hardship because she knows without a doubt that God will provide through it all. Her faith is confident, unshakable, and true.
I’ll admit, this all sounds real good on paper, but I’m just not there yet. I have called my husband crying a lot in a particular season of life we are finding ourselves in. We went from the sweet summery newlywed bliss to the harsh winter of infertility all during a pandemic and long distance. If that gave you anxiety just reading it, imagine how I feel! It’s certainly been weighing heavy on my heart and fear has found it’s way in from time to time. My faith has been shaken. What if God doesn’t provide? What if we don’t get pregnant? What if, what if, what if. I don’t feel prepared for this at all. But my marriage is prepared.
“For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.” 1 Corinthians 3:11.
My marriage is prepared for this because we have chosen to seek God through prayer, scripture, and even through our community. My marriage is strong because it is built on a foundation of unconditional love, the kind of love we know only because of Jesus. My marriage is tied tightly together by the cord of three strands that entangles the Holy Spirit in the center of it. (Ecclesiastes 4:12). My marriage faces the hardships of life on earth because of the faith we have in God to always work for our good. (Romans 8:28). My marriage is confident in His goodness and His faithfulness. So even though I do not feel that I was equipped to handle something, I don’t have to be, I just have to trust that God will help me along the way.
“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16.
Maybe you feel like your own marriage isn’t or wasn’t prepared for your own version of winter. There’s a storm that feels like it just won’t end, or when it does, a new one blows through. Are you filling your marriage with fear or with hope? The truth is, we have a choice. We can choose to look at whatever it is we are facing with wild minds, filled with all the possibilities of what more can go wrong. Or, we can choose to look at it with hearts so full of faith that we know the darkness will pass and God will lead us through to the light.
“I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called—his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance.” Ephesians 1:18.
I have found faithful confidence that my family will be ready when the storms come. I know for a fact that my husband and I can face the winters and stay warm, because I have an abundance of belief in all that God is able to provide. I cover my marriage in that belief through my prayer and my time with the Lord, like a bedspread I have sewn together myself. Every prayer is a stitch in the fabric that keeps us cuddled up in the love and hope of Jesus. Fear might creep in, some days more than others, but I know where to turn when it does. God takes my fears away. God helps me provide for my marriage and my family. God gives me the confidence to be a faithful wife who knows her marriage can survive even the longest, harshest winters.
Give yourself the same confidence. Turn to God and ask Him to fill your heart with that kind of faith. Seek Him, even in the stormy days, and know that on the other side He has sunshine waiting for you. A wife of noble character is confident in the Lord. A wife of noble character trusts Him with her household. A wife of noble character fears not, because she knows exactly how powerful her God is.
“For who is God except the Lord? Who but our God is a solid rock? God is my strong fortress, and he makes my way perfect.” 2 Samuel 22:33.