I keep hearing “it’s a different world we live in right now”, and to be honest, I’m not sure I believe that’s true. Sin and the attacks of the enemy are nothing new. They may show their face in different ways, but it is a timeless trend that as long as God is doing good in the world, the enemy is trying to do evil. And what’s worse, we, Christians, let that evil happen in our own communities.

I’m not writing this to condemn anyone or tell you what to think or how to feel, you have God’s Word and conviction for that. You know your heart and so does He. So please don’t read this and think that I am here to give you a “how to” lesson on being a “good Christian” or half way decent human being. I would hope that if you love the Lord, you are already doing everything you can to combat the evil in this world. I would pray that you are already on your own hands and knees, asking God how to be a light in such a dark time.

My husband and I have had some hard conversations lately. We’ve talked to our family, friends, and even strangers trying to understand how we can best serve God and the communities that need our love.

Before you read on, I want to ask you to give this post a chance and commit to reading until the end. I’m not going to sugar coat it or beat around it:

The black community is facing evil and hatred, attacks from the enemy in the form of racism in our own hearts. The black community needs our love. Black lives matter.

Before you click out of this page, first let me ask you a question: Have you read what the Bible says about us all? If not, that’s okay! But please allow me to share that with you now. Just so you don’t have to take my word on the statement I made above. You can take God’s Word and wrestle with it on your own.

“So God created human beings in His own image.” Genesis 1:27.

“I am fearfully and wonderfully made, Your works are wonderful, I know that full well” Psalm 139:14.

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:10.

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10.

“There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them.” 1 Corinthians 12:5.

Trust me, there’s plenty more where that came from and if you don’t believe me just open your Bible and look for yourself. I think you get the idea.

If you’re still reading this, thank you. I am grateful you have a heart that wants to serve God and understand His heart toward human beings. He made us wonderful, unique, but still in His own image! It’s miraculous and beautiful to look at another life and understand God made that! If you believe in God and know how much He loves you, then don’t you know how much He loves that person standing next to you? That person across the street? That person across the world? God loves us and He calls us to love one another. (John 13:34).

I bet you’re reading this thinking, okay, yes, amen! BUT… what does that have to do with marriage?


You and your husband are ONE. (Matthew 19:6). We’ve been over this already in my blog post “Two Shall Become One”. That means that in your oneness you must decide as a couple and family on how you want to react to the world and how you plan to serve God within it.

My husband and I have had a lot of conversations around the climate of our country for the black community as well as for law enforcement. Those are our private conversations as husband and wife, however I feel some things are important to share publicly with you all.

My husband and I had to talk honestly and openly about our opinions on everything that’s been going on around us because we needed to know where we stood as a family. We NEED to be one on this. We had to tell each other where we struggled and where we had questions. Where we felt we may have failed before. We discussed what was right and what was wrong with everything we were seeing. And we decided together where to stand.

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” James 5:16.

Where to stand has to be decided on and start at home. In a marriage, that means between you and your husband. What do you stand for as a couple? What do you want your kids to stand for? What do you want your friendships and relationships to reflect? What do you want to hear from Jesus on the day you meet? I can tell you what we want to hear:

Well done, good and faithful servant!” Matthew 25:23.

Now that you’ve decided where to stand as a couple, you must decide how to act. That’s been a hard one for my husband and I because of who we are. We are not black and do not experience what the black community experiences. We are also family of law enforcement officers who we love very much and want home safe. We felt like we were stuck between a rock and a hard place at one point. We’ve had to have conversations with our friends and family and with God on how to act in a way that honors God best. We didn’t have those answers. We needed advice.

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8.

Paul’s advice to the churches is such good advice to us, the church of today. Paul wrote these words in a letter with love and hope that they would take his word to heart. Friends, we must take God’s Word to heart. We must consider these things when decided what we stand on, who we stand for, and how we are going to reflect that in this world.

Reading Paul’s letters can be so helpful to consider before we start a heavy conversation. Pray to think about what is right, honorable, pure, and admirable. What is just. (Philippians 4:8 KJV). Ask God to open your mind and heart to see things His way. Then have the hard talks you need to have, starting at home.

A note from the Author: Red letter edition bibles will show the words spoken by Jesus himself in scripture printed in the color red. Although there is not scripture stating “Black Lives Matter”, or proof that Jesus has spoken those words, the scripture I shared, as well as many others verses in the Bible, reflect the heart of Jesus toward human beings, and His heart toward the black community. I wrote those words in red as a reminder that Jesus loves the black community and that we need to love them to if we want to reflect Him and serve Him well.

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