“Imagine an unfailing love”. These words are painted outside of the Sydney campus of Hillsong Church in Australia. My husband and I stood in front of them for a photograph after service, and as I looked up at the massive mural, I thought of how amazing that kind of love really is.

That’s the love of God.  I pray to give that kind of love to my husband every day of our lives. But what about the days I fail at that?  Am I still a worthy wife?  Am I still a worthy daughter of the King?  Yes! Because the epitome of unfailing love isn’t what comes from us, but what is given to us.  Unfailing love is an unconditional love that comes from God, freely given to us, at no cost.  It is not about what we do or have done.  We don’t deserve it, and never will.  That’s why it will never fail, because it will never depend on whether we fail or succeed. 

“For by grace you have been saved through faith.  And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God”.  Ephesians 2:8

I start every day with the best intentions.  I ask God to help me show my husband that same unconditional love that He so freely gives me.  Most days I like to think our marriage is one of the most loving out there.  Most days, even when he leaves a wet towel soaking on the bed, are good days.  Most days I show my husband the kind of love Paul wrote about to the Corinthians and he shows me the same in return. 

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ” 1 Corinthian 13:4-7 (NIV)

But what about the days where my love is not patient or kind?  What about the days my love is proud, when I would rather stand firm on making a point just to “win” an argument?  How about when I tell my husband “this is the 5th time this week you’ve left the towel on the bed!”? I’m pretty sure that counts as being easily angered AND keeping record of wrongs. Love is not self-seeking, but I have my moments where it’s all about “me” in the marriage.  My needs, my wants, my time.  Even as I put this into words, I am cringing, knowing that I have disappointed God in my marriage.

Thankfully, God really is patient and kind.  He really does keep no record of wrongs.  Thankfully, God’s love never fails.  We can go to Him day after day and seek out His wisdom and study His Word and get better and better at this whole being a wife thing.  We get chance after chance.  God isn’t looking down on us saying “you know, you did that 5 times already this week!”.  No, God is looking down on us, saying try again, this time with Me

So, we try again.  We try again to be more patient and kind.  We try again to set aside our pride the next time we don’t agree with our husband.  We try again to keep no more record of wrongs, instead forgive quickly.  We try again to ask “what is it that you need?” to our husband, instead of telling him the 50 things we need.  And we keep trying. 

Because “love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians 13:7 (NLT).

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