Proverbs 31:30-31

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

The last three months, I have spent studying how to become “A Wife of Noble Character”.  I have read, prayed, and practiced what it looks like to become this woman that Proverbs 31 describes in scripture.  A once overwhelming idea of someone who I could never measure up to, is now the woman I claim to be.  Of course, there is never perfection and always more work to be done.  There will always be more prayers, practice, and time spent in God’s Word if I want to continue to honor and serve Him.  And that is exactly what my time spent studying Proverbs 31 has taught me.  This wife I strive to become, this wife of noble character, she is a work in progress.  She is a woman who is constantly doing her best, while always putting God first in all she wishes to accomplish.  She is a woman who fears the Lord, and loves the Lord, more than she does anything in her life.

Becoming this woman is not an overnight transformation.  This is a lifetime of choosing God above all else.    This is a lifetime of studying His Word, spending time with Him, and seeking Him.  There is work to be done, but first we must ask if that work serves His purpose.  There is time to be spent, but are we prioritizing our time with Him?  There is effort to be made, even in moments of exhaustion or weakness, and a necessary trust that He will strengthen us and give us endurance for that effort.  There is patience, love, wisdom, and kindness. All traits that a woman processes because of the Holy Spirit within her.  Is the Holy Spirit within you?  Do you know the Lord and therefore fear what a life looks like without Him?  I do.

“The fear of the Lord is a fountain of life, that one may turn away from the snares of death.” Proverbs 14:27.

This woman that King Solomon wrote about when he wrote Proverbs is a woman for us wives to model after.  We should strive to learn from her as our example without the burden of comparison or unworthiness.  I have learned in my time studying her that she is my guide, yet who God is calling me to be as a wife is specific to the needs of my husband.  She is a provider in many ways, yet the ways I am called to provide might look different from the woman standing next to me.  She is a hard worker, but the work my hands do is not the same as the work your hands do.  She is wise, but her wisdom comes from experience and each of our experiences are unique because God has a distinct plan for what we gain through them.  She is different from you and I, yet she is the perfect illustration of how to serve God in marriage. 

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord.  There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. 1 Corinthians 12:4-6.

In all the differences between myself and the next wife, one thing remains true, our need for Jesus and a relationship with the Lord.  Our need for His guidance, counsel, wisdom, help, love, grace, and forgiveness.  Our need for the Spirit and the fruit that produces within us.  Our need for God at the center of our lives, and our marriages.  This is a woman who knows her need for the Lord.  This is a woman who is living the calling God has for her as a wife now, with assurance that she will receive her reward for that in Heaven. 

So, as we conclude this Proverbs 31 series on “A Wife of Noble Character”, I hope you have gained from this as much as I have.  I hope that you have come to understand who God calls you to be as a wife through His Word and how you can become that woman.  I hope you have left behind the lies of the enemy that call you unworthy, ill-equipped, unprepared, or inadequate.  I hope you have allowed the Spirit to fill you with the truth that you are worthy, you are able, and you are prepared because of your willingness to do all things in service of the Lord.  I hope you have grown to recognize the true picture of a Proverbs 31 wife is a woman who fears the Lord.

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