How many times have you read through Proverbs 31, trying to be “a wife of noble character”, and thought: “That’s impossible!”.
Overwhelmed by the enormity of what scripture tells me I need to be as a wife, I started to study the Word in Proverbs 31 line by line rather than trying to digest it all at once. And once I separated each task, I realized there’s actually a lot of simple things in there I can do! One of those things is make breakfast.
During my bible time one morning the verse in Proverbs 31:15 jumped off the page at me. “She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household.” (Proverbs 31:15). At first glance, this was one of those impossible tasks. What do you mean I have to get up before dawn? Every morning? But why? I genuinely wanted to know! So I prayed over that verse and asked God how I could implement it in my own marriage. Then I re read that one line, “prepare breakfast”.
What a simple task, make breakfast for the man I love. I don’t know why I never thought of that before! Now, don’t get me wrong, I had made breakfast for and with my husband before, on occasion. What I did not do, was intentionally start my day with preparing breakfast for him and I on a regular basis. I committed myself to this task as one way I could serve my husband and be one step closer to becoming “a wife of noble character”. After the first week of doing this, I noticed a whole lot of goodness being added to my marriage.
First things first, what better way to bring joy to your morning that kicking things off with your husband? We know “joy comes in the morning“(Psalm 30:5) with God, but what about within your marriage? Shouldn’t joy be each days starting point? It has been a great source of joy to find different recipes for breakfast and start our day together. How often do we rush out of bed, get ready, and walk out the door without spending one minute of quality time with God or our husbands? Taking the time to make breakfast, even if it’s just as simple as putting out cereal or starting the coffee pot, slows us down and creates a space for that time.
Another great blessing that has come from making breakfast is appreciation. I show my husband appreciation and love through this simple act of service. My husband, who has reaped the benefits of my new passion for breakfast, has also grown in the appreciation department. I get a lot more hugs and kisses in the morning while I cook, pour coffee, or even just join him while he has a yogurt. Service is an act of love. The more ways I can show love to my husband, the better! I receive love in return through words of affirmation like “thank you for making breakfast, I really appreciate it!”.
The bond we have as husband and wife needs to be cultivated and cared after. The time we spend in the morning together creates a space for that bond to grow. When we have breakfast, I get to ask my husband what his plans for the day are. With each morning conversation, I find new things I can pray for throughout the day for him. Sometimes it’s just that he’s tired and needs renewed energy. Sometimes it’s a big prayer, like career goals and next steps. Maybe it’s thankfulness for an opportunity. I’ve learned a lot of my husbands prayer requests through talks at the breakfast table, or in our case, the coffee table.
You might be reading this and thinking, how can I add one more thing to my already busy schedule? How can I find the time to make breakfast regularly? The effort is what counts here. Do I make breakfast before dawn? Definitely not. Do I make breakfast every day? No. But do I make an intentional effort to prepare breakfast on days I am able and days I am not, still find small ways to start my morning together with my husband? Now I do.
You don’t need to be a master chef to be the wife who prepares breakfast for her household.
A bowl of cereal will do just fine! But I have found that the effort alone in the smallest tasks helps us learn to put effort into all areas in our marriage. It starts with making breakfast, then it leads to quality time, prayer, appreciation, intimacy, and many other places where effort needs to be made.
Our mornings have gone from rolling out of bed and getting on with our days as individuals, to a husband and wife who cherish time together over a morning meal or cup of coffee. Our affection and appreciation for the other have grown with this new morning ritual. God knows what’s best for our marriages. We don’t need to read His Word and feel overwhelmed. We don’t need to live up to Proverbs 31 perfectly overnight. But a small start, even as small as breakfast, is a great place to begin.
“Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin…” (Zechariah 4:10).